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A New Writing Horizon

One of the great things about writing is that I am often inspired by events that happen in a normal day. With my most recent freelance assignment, I was able to write about several home improvement projects Bill and I have undertaken at our vacation home for Conde Nast’s Architectural Digest vertical, AD It Yourself (ADIY). Architectural Digest, which rebranded as AD in 2017, publishes a multitude of fun and informative DIY articles covering household, landscaping and architectural projects.

Published online in early February, 8 Ways to Improve the ROI on Your Vacation Home, explores actionable steps to improve the running efficiency of your vacation house. The bottom line is that by spending some money now on fairly reasonable technical upgrades, and deploying smart home management strategies, you can significantly lower your bills. This long-term money saving play is a great way to enhance your living experience while increasing your return-on-investment.

If you take the word “vacation” out of the title, many of the recommendations work for your primary residence. You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the added flexibility you have in managing your home’s infrastructure.

A special thanks to my panel of experts for their insights, including, Westport, CT-based Realtor and decluttering expert Amy van Arsdale, Charlestown, RI-based Realtor Ray Mott, and Seattle, WA-based Architect John Outterson.

Thanks also to my friend Christina Cush, pro writer and editor, for the suggestion to reach out to AD It Yourself with our second home ROI management strategies!

 

Catching Up

There is something about the turn of the calendar to a fresh month that feels invigorating. October to November is one of those moments, when this feeling of ‘I must write a blog post’ seems to take hold. This post serves as a brief catch-up for all my faithful readers. It’s been a bit of an up and down year on the writing front, but there have been a few highlights.

Back in June, I received an email from the grandson of Lou Ballato, one of the early linchpins in my love of tennis, and whose signature racquets hang on our wall in Quonnie. It was a follow-up to a piece I published in November 2021 in this blog, entitled “A Collage of Tennis Racquets Keeps Fun Sports Memories Close

It was so great to connect with him and share in our mutual admiration of his fun and beloved grandfather. I’ve relayed our email conversation to several of my Belle Haven cronies, and to be chatting about Lou again made us all very happy. Thanks, John, for taking the time to let me know how you and your family enjoyed reading my recollections of Lou.

In early August, the Florida Magazine Association held the 2022 Charlie Awards, an annual celebration of statewide magazine editing and writing. Incredibly, for the second year in a row, an article I had written for Naples Illustrated magazine concerning the current status of Florida panthers, won the Silver Award in the category of Service Writing in the 20,000 plus consumer circulation division. I was thrilled. Here’s a link to the article, entitled Felines of the Floridian Forest. This kind of work is exactly why I studied journalism in college. Hat tip to my wonderful editor, Christina Cush, who took her pencil to my work and made the articles even stronger. Much appreciated!

The investigation and exploration of a myriad of topics, and of the broader world, continues to make my life interesting. Engagement with people I might not meet in my everyday life has enriched my understanding of the struggles and triumphs of their lives, mostly on the professional level, but also on a personal level. I find the work of others very inspiring, and I enjoy taking all those life experience threads and incorporating them in my writing.

I look forward to creating more content in the coming months.

Remembering a Favorite Teacher

Like my mother, I am an inveterate obituary scanner. While I am not the everyday checker that she was, I do open the obits screen of my hometown newspaper every few weeks and scroll through. From observing Mom over the years, I know that If she caught a name that sounded vaguely familiar, she would say, ‘so and so knew my father…or…my brother…or my sisters…or I worked with him…or I knew her family from church, college, high school…’ or some other connection that she had made in her life.  Recollecting those people seemed to comfort her, drawing her to a time she liked to remember. I can totally relate.

A few weeks ago, I happened to scan my hometown newspaper obituaries and noticed that a man, who had the same name as one of most favorite elementary school teachers ever, had died. I scrolled down to see if he had any sisters, and yes, two sisters had survived him. I thought I recognized her first name but I wasn’t positive. They lived in a southwestern state now, a long way from where my school was. I had to do some additional sleuthing to be sure. But I was excited to possibly solve one of those stories that has rattled around in my brain, and heart, for years, hoping that everything was all right with this nice woman.

One of the big things going on in my fourth-grade year of elementary school, 1968-1969, was the Viet Nam War. I watched the CBS Evening News with my parents every night. I was still kind of young, barely ten years old, to take in all that news, but I knew from my parent’s expressions and demeanor that they were very upset and concerned about the events in Viet Nam.

My sisters, ten, nine and seven years older than me, had friends that were serving, or had been drafted, or had low draft numbers, which was always a scary feeling. We would read the names of the boys in our hometown newspaper who had been killed already. A few of my cousins were serving too. My brother was still four years away from the draft age of eighteen, but I knew my parents were already nervous for him, and for all the boys in our broader world.

During fourth grade, my teacher would occasionally talk about her fiancée, a Marine who was serving in Viet Nam. This fact struck me with fear especially after watching the evening news. I was scared for him and for my teacher. Occasionally, she would share little snippets about his overseas service, which my teacher kept on the very positive side. ‘Everything is fine, not to worry.’ We finished the year knowing he was returning home at some point soon, but I couldn’t remember exactly what had happened. I hoped she had had a good life as I remembered her kindness to me.

Back in my early elementary school days, I’m not sure I applied myself as much as I could have. One day, my fourth-grade teacher announced there would be a science test on honeybees in two days. I vaguely recall that I didn’t study. It was springtime, and after school, I was always outside playing, riding bikes or goofing around, and would get to my homework later.

Lo and behold I bombed on the bee test with a 67, which promptly caused me to start crying in front of everyone in the class. I knew I had messed up. I was going to have to show this test to my parents, who had been amazing students, and have them sign the paper. I would get in trouble. I felt awful. My teacher could see that I was upset and asked me to stay after school and we’d talk about it all then. She’d call my mother and ask her to come pick me up later. While I was upset about staying after school, I was relieved, too. She would break the news to my mom that I had not done well on a test. And for the first time I in my young life, I cared about how I did on tests.

After dismissal, she came over to my desk. I was embarrassed about my puffy red face and the test.

“I know you can do better than this, Marianne. I’ve seen it in your classroom work and in other assignments. What happened here?”

“I didn’t study at home. We’d talked about it in class and I thought that would be enough,” I replied.

“I think you can do a better job if you just review the material more carefully. You can take the test again tomorrow, and I’ll average the grades, but tonight, I want you to study the textbook, ok,” she asked calmly.

“Yes, I will. Thank you,” I said. By then, my mother had shown up. I can’t remember that car ride home, but I’m sure my mother made it clear to me that there was no playing outside until the “marks” situation had been improved. She always referred to grades as marks.

The next afternoon, I took the test, handed it in and then waited at my desk. After a little while, she stood up.

“Marianne, you got a 94! See, I told you that you could do better. It wasn’t the material; it was the preparation. I’m so proud of you,” she added, hugging me at the same time. I don’t know who was happier, my teacher or me.

Throughout my life, I’ve thought of her kindness to me. She could have ignored my poor grade. Instead, she challenged me.

So, here I was, fifty-four years later, hoping this kind, caring woman had had a good life. I reread the obituary. There were a few photos connected to the family. Yes, that’s her face. I remember now. There she was, next to her late brother, identified with her married name. Yes, that was the soldier’s name! The Marine husband had returned. He was safe. They had married. She had moved away, yes, but she had a family and from what I could see in the photos, she looked great.

These little bits of information filled my heart with joy. I was sorry to read about her brother’s passing but I am awfully glad I found his obituary. Rest in peace, dear sir. And many thanks to your wonderful sister.

A Collage of Tennis Racquets Keeps Fun Sports Memories Close

Old sports equipment had a very long shelf life in my childhood home. Tennis racquets, footballs, golf clubs and field hockey sticks stuck around way past their usable phase. When I think of all that gear, I am reminded of our family’s younger years, when Mom was calling us for dinner, and we were exhausted from running around in the back yard or returning from a late tennis game. Dad had to be picked up at the train station. Homework waited. Time to come in!

When I was five years old, we moved to a new house in Greenwich, which my father had designed and helped build even though he was a full-time lawyer. In addition to the cool laundry chute, which transported our clothes down two floors, he crafted a small sports equipment closet in the playroom. For the next thirty-five years, tennis racquets, baseball mitts, bats, badminton birdies, ping pong mallets, footballs, basketballs, Whiffle Ball bats and aerated white balls were kept in this narrow, two-shelved space.

We had a nice backyard and could play lots of sports. I was a quick study and fairly coordinated as a young girl. My brother Eddie taught me how to throw a football and baseball, among other sport skills, with proper technique. He loved being outside. I loved being outside with him. Football, basketball and whiffle ball were our favorites. Occasionally, we’d throw a Frisbee.

My first football pass at age seven or eight was probably four yards long. Eddie would smile at me and say, “That’s so good, Mar!” He loved that I could throw the football to him. He didn’t care that I could barely manage it all. “It’ll be easier when your hands get bigger,” he’d explain, making me feel good about my abilities at the time.

Eventually, after a few more years had passed, we had four set plays. The 28, which was our only running play, was a quarterback sneak. Then, we had the 38 and the 48, two passing plays, one to the right and one to the left. The 58 was the Bomb – a long pass. Eddie had to call that one. I could entertain the 28, the 38 and the 48, although the 38 was best for me as a righty. In our two-person huddle, Eddie would invariably call the 38 for me. Brilliant! We even huddled up although no one else was with us in the back yard. It was fun and funny, all at the same time.

Eddie was a huge sports fan. He cut out every newspaper article on Navy Quarterback Roger Staubach that he could find and glued them all into a dedicated notebook. He kept the cutting and pasting going even after Staubach became the QB for the Dallas Cowboys. He held on to that crinkly, glue-filled notebook for many years, although it eventually fell apart.

Eddie was an amazing athlete. He was excellent at tennis, skied beautifully, and fast, on a tight slalom path and had a silky basketball shot. I was five years younger, so I always trailed him in capabilities, but he told me I was super coordinated and would keep instructing me on how to get better at whatever sport we were focused on at that moment. “Just watch me,” he’d say.

To this day, all that advice has stayed with me and I’ve passed it down to our children, not with giant expectations but rather to enjoy playing all that much more. Hit it harder. Go faster. Throw it farther.

For the most part, Eddie played tennis with the boys his age at the club or with my sister Tina. She was also a fourteen and under club champion at our local club, two years older than Eddie and a very nice player. Michele and Karen played occasionally and they, too had their own racquets and good games. Those were happy years.

Fast forward thirty-five years. It’s now 1999 and the Greenwich house is sold. It nearly killed us to leave that house, but we had to go. Mom’s memory was disappearing, and Dad was not well enough to manage his everyday tasks. Everything had to get cleared out, a rather large undertaking given that they had held onto a fair amount of paraphernalia.

It was decided by the moving committee, i.e., “the kids,” but mostly us girls, that the old tennis racquets could not be thrown away. But where to put them? Quonnie. The footballs, basketballs, ping pong stuff of yore could all go.

Somehow, another, fifteen years floated by with those racquets rattling around another closet. In that time, both my mother and father passed away when they were in their upper eighties. Sadly, my brother was not well. He had medical problems and was having difficulty navigating life. It was a very hard time.

One day, about five years ago, my husband Bill suggested that we hang the oldest racquets on a wall. I loved the idea.

I shared with Bill a bit about their provenance:

  1. Lou Ballato Autograph – Circa 1965: The tennis pro at our club, Lou Ballato, was a colorful figure. A champion squash player, he played and taught tennis in long white or crème colored wool pants which somehow made him look like he was floating on the court. Karen played with this racquet. Perhaps Tina and Michele played with that one, too. Maybe even I did when I was just starting at age six – sounds about right.
  2. Slazenger Challenge No. 1 – Circa 1967: This was my brother’s most treasured possession. It was a big deal as I think it was more expensive than many other racquets at the time. It was finely made with more rounded, contoured wooden edges. Eddie was working on his game and vying for club championships against other excellent players. I believe he won the Twelve and Under championship trophy at our club in 1967 with this racquet.
  3. Lou Balatto Autograph – Circa 1969: I think this must have been either Tina’s racquet, as she also was an excellent player and contested in the junior club championships, or Michele’s, but I can’t remember exactly who played with this one. The styling on this racquet’s signature is more elegant. I bet I used it, too.
  4. Jack Kramer Autograph – Circa 1972: This was my first official racquet! I felt so cool having a brand-new racquet that was not a hand-me-down. I improved a lot and started playing in the club championships. I was a decent player, but many of the girls were better than I was, so I just kept plugging along. I also was on the swim team, so much of my focus was in the pool rather than on the tennis courts. I loved playing.
  5. Wilson T4000 Circa 1973: This was a game changer. While the first modern small-head metal racquet, the T-2000, had come out a few years earlier, Jimmy Connors popularized the brand with his winning ways throughout the ’70s. We had two of these racquets and Mom and Dad each played with one. Dad was a good player. He stayed active until he was in his eighties, even with all the back surgeries that he had. Mom was also an advanced tennis player, having started in her early school years. Our parents were both good athletes.
  6. Chris Evert Autograph – Circa 1975: When this racquet came out, I knew I wanted to get it because I wanted to be like the tennis pro Chris Evert – the way she played, her demeanor on court and her steadiness – were all qualities I wanted to absorb and integrate into my own game. Dad bought it for me and I was thrilled! I played with this racquet until about 1980, when we started buying the new-fangled composite versions. I played in the club championships and did well in the doubles competition. I’ve loved to play tennis all my life.

Dad was into equipment and always wanted us to have excellent tools at our fingertips. He was generally very supportive of newer technology – if we didn’t spend too much money. Here’s a link that provides a great overview of how tennis racquets have evolved over time.

I’m so grateful to have these racquets now. They’re like old pals. Every so often, I look at the collage and think of my family during that time. Tomorrow marks seventeen years since Dad died, and in ten days, it will be the third anniversary of Eddie’s death. I’m sorry that Eddie never saw this collage while he was still living, but I know he’d like that we are keeping his memory alive, especially in regard to the sport he spent so many happy hours pursuing.

These vintage possessions have a special place of honor in our Quonnie home – a place where we can remember Dad, Mom and Eddie in the good years and rejoice in our love of sports and family.

RIP

Edwin Michael Jones, Jr. (1954-2018)

Edwin Michael Jones (1916-2004)

Alberta Irene Conway Jones (1918-2006)

Always in our hearts.

Writing – My Gateway to Lifelong Learning

For the past year-and-a-half, I’ve been freelance writing for a couple of clients and have found, once again, that I love to work. The opportunity to learn about accomplished, involved and interesting people, or events, organization and topics, and then write about them, continues to expand my lifelong learning curve.

Recently, I’ve mostly written profiles and feature articles for  Naples Illustrated magazine. This has included interviews with civic, philanthropic and business leaders throughout Collier County, FL, as well as more in-depth pieces about birds and turtles.

Naples Illustrated July-August 2021 issue. Cover photo features Adrienne Gilhart, who is the subject of an in-depth profile I had fun writing.

While I can’t interview the animals, I do get the chance to speak to experts about our feathered and ninja friends. Research, including interviews, is like eating candy for me – delightful in every way. While my BA in Journalism has proved to be the perfect degree, I think my true calling is to while away my days conducting interviews and pouring over archived material in drafty and voluminous libraries. It’s in those moments that I’ll figure out some minor detail, giving me an insight that turns the piece into compelling reading.

I’m also writing for the North Florida Junior Golf Foundation. The young golfers inspire me as well. They’re trying to craft a future that might involve playing competitive golf, or perhaps it’s just to be a better player and enjoy a walk in the park. Either way, they’re working hard, improving their skills, learning to work with others, sticking to the rules and most importantly, having fun along the way. The PGA and LPGA professionals, accomplished amateurs, men and women volunteers who support these junior golfers, also are incredibly dedicated and praise-worthy, not that they’re looking for all that. They just want the kids to enjoy playing golf. There’s nothing like touching the future, which they’re doing every day.

It all ties back into the concept of lifelong learning, one of the well-known secrets to living a long and fulfilling life. Researching and writing magazine copy, newspaper articles, books, blog posts, you name it, by default, provides a reason to peer through that broader world lens. The view is spectacular.

Lead photo from “Felines of the Floridian Forest,” a feature article in the September issue of Naples Illustrated. Photography by Jay Staton.

But enough about inspiration. Today, I’m excited to share my most recent article appearing in the September, 2021, issue of Naples Illustrated about Florida panthers, the official state animal. Many thanks to Panther Cams photographer Jay Staton who graciously shared his amazing images with the magazine, captured with his custom DSLR camera traps in the Collier County area. The copy and pictures in “Felines of the Floridian Forest” shine a bright light on the multi-layered challenges facing this important yet endangered animal.

I was also recently informed that my birding article won a Silver Award in the Florida Magazine Association’s 2021 Charlie awards – for Best Writing: Service Feature in the Consumer: Circulation over 20K category. As it turns out, this was my very first piece published in Naples Illustrated, entitled Take Flight – Birding in Naples. Former Editor-in-Chief, Christina Boyle Cush, helped edit the piece and likewise was recognized.

If you’d like to check out some of the other pieces I have had published for Naples Illustrated, or for the North Florida Junior Golf Foundation, go to the Recent-Articles page here on my website.

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